No matter how old I get it seems that some things never change in life. There will always be things in life that cause you stress, change your perspective and force you to change. I’m a pretty optimistic person, always have been, but this week certainly tested that! Without going through everything, let’s just say that being self-employeed has a unique set of challenges. Had two trips this week. Sunday I went to Beaumont, TX and only stayed for a night and came back the next day after teaching for a day. I was home for a few days and wasn’t sure until the day I left that I was going to make the second trip.
While I was home a friend came into town. She is a fellow trainer and someone that I really look up to and am happy to call her a friend. We met years ago and I have been a student of hers. When I first started traveling to train, she opened her home to me on a trip where I came to her area to teach in her office. I was extremely nervous to teach with her in the room. It’s always a bit intimidating to do something with a mentor watching you. It went good and she also offered some great tips on teaching and our relationship grew. She does not come to Tulsa often, but when she does I always like to connect with her if I can. Dinner was nice, we went to PF Chang’s and talked for hours! She is also a coach and with my current stress levels this week, she really helped me through that and made me really think long and hard about what I’m doing. I really like training and have been told by many that I have a gift as a teacher. One of the realities that I have to push myself on is getting paid what I’m worth. That sounds strange, but when you are self-employed we have to really push and market ourselves no matter the business.
I train mostly on a single product, but that does not mean that is all I can teach. I have experience in many areas of real estate and my specialty is teaching technology of all types. Students have said that I break it down in easy to understand concepts that make since, but yet still help the student learn the technology.
How can you achieve your goals and grow a business if you don’t expand your thinking. In Keller Williams, they teach many different things and I’m blessed to be with a company that offers so much training. One of the classes that I have attended over the years and my friend also teaches is BOLD. In BOLD they talk about creating a life by design and reaching for what you want to achieve, no matter what that is. If you can’t imagine yourself making a certain amount or doing a certain thing, then you won’t ever achieve it. You are limited by your imagination. I can imagine pretty big, but for some reason I have not been thinking BIG lately so it’s time to THINK BIG!
Why should I let other’s dictate my limits? The answer is I shouldn’t! I track a lot of what I do down to the number of days I travel, train and are home to how much I spend in expenses for each trip. I have not been that good at tracking things in years past and I have to say, I am very happy that I started focusing on that. (Another BOLD Law: What you focus on expands) Tracking what I’m doing and where I’m spending my time helps me determine where I need to improve and what needs to change and what areas need more attention.
I took some risks this week and luckily everything worked out, but the main thing I learned is that if you don’t ask, you won’t get! I asked for help (needed transportation and a place to stay) for a trip and a few friends really came through for me, which made me very happy. If I had not asked and just given up, I may have lost out of the opportunity that was at hand and may not have strengthened the relationships I have. That being said, getting on a plane and going on a trip with no ticket or way home, is extremely stressful! However, as I sit on the plane right now writing this on my free Wifi on Southwest because of hitting my A-List Preferred status, it really was worth it and I’m happy with the end result. This experience has certainly pushed me toward a more focused goal. This is a good thing!
I have not been the only one this week with some stress. Caley has been a little stressed as well. Although I don’t know all the details, and I may not be physically close to her, but I do pay attention to her social media and talk to her a lot. It’s not stalking, I’m her mom and I want to make sure she is doing well. She isn’t the only one. I check on all my “kids” (not just my two). I can’t help being the “mom”, just because they move away and go to college doesn’t mean my job stops! I saw a post that made me thing she needed her mom. We chatted for a bit and I didn’t pry to much, but I certainly wanted to make sure she was ok. The count down has begun! Caley comes home in less than 2 weeks. I’ve been checking to see what everyone wants for Thanksgiving because I want this year to be special with all their favorites. My kids are growing up and some day will be moving away, not just for college, and I am not quite ready for that.
About to land from flight #1 of 2 to make it home tonight. Looking forward to some time home and tomorrow Will and I are going out to dinner and a movie with my mom and dad with Nick and friend. Monday was dad’s birthday! I’m through a very stressful week and going to have a GREAT weekend!! I’m thinking the hot tub and a glass of wine is calling my name at home!!