It seems that letting go is the hardest part for me as a parent. I mean after all for the last 17-19 years of their lives I have been responsible for the health, well being, protection and their champion. You can’t just turn that off! It won’t matter if they are 60, they will still be my babies and I will still want to protect and take care of them, it’s just what parents do.
Now I get that one is officially an adult and able to make her own decisions and the other one will be there in less than 6 months. That does not mean that if I think they are doing something stupid, I won’t tell them so! Love you, but you get the good and the blunt mom sometimes!
No matter what they do or don’t do that I agree or disagree with, they will always be the twinkle in my eyes and a mothers love will outlast everything else!
An update on Caley, she is still enjoying SCAD, not excited about the new roommate they got this trimester, but they are working through it. Nick has been accepted to OSU and we are still waiting to find out about OU. Pretty sure OU will be his first choice. No matter what he does, we will be proud of him. Jacob recently got to go to the X-Games in Aspen, which looked cool from the pictures and videos he sent. He still talks to me, and I claim him as my other son! Haven’t talked to Ness in a while, but I will check in and see how she is doing.
Our family chat has been really funny lately. At one point, Will and Nick were in OK, I was in OH, Caley in GA and Jacob in CO all talking about cars and other silly things. I even messed with them a bit by sending a photo on the group chat of the Oxygen masks down in the row behind me on the plane. 😳 No worries, the lid just wouldn’t stay shut. Technology really makes us feel closer and keeps us communicating, which helps me miss them a little less.
It’s been a little bit since I posted. I thought about several things and it’s time to let them out. We had a nice visit. Caley was home for a month and we just enjoyed the time together. Nice quiet Christmas with family. I sold a house over the break and didn’t do any traveling in December which were both good. It was so nice to have Caley and Jacob home. We spent several days just hanging out and of course squeezed in a few binge watching of shows. Hearing the two of them laughing was a joy and one of the things I miss a lot when they are going. Maybe I should record them when they are home next time. That way I can hear them giggle and laugh anytime. 🙂
One morning Jacob came over and we went to one of our favorite breakfast places, First Watch. Caley, Jacob, Will and I enjoyed a breakfast just talking and then ran some errands. Caley even took a photo with me and edited in SnapChat for a fun memory. It’s the simple things in life that get saved in the memory to give you a smile when you think about them.
She got an email that she will have a 2nd roommate, which they were not real thrilled about, but they will make it work. Learning to live with 1 person is hard enough and now they have to add another one in the mix.
The night before she left was really tough. It was her last time to see Jacob and it is hard to know that you won’t see the love of your life for over about 10 weeks! We had some personal conversations and some nice mother/daughter moments. It breaks my heart to think about her missing us so much. We stayed up late packing and using one of my travel tips to get everything packed. I pulled out Travel Space Bags and we packed them to the top and shoved as much stuff in bags as we could. The early morning flight was nice to have Ness (Vanessa) come with us to the airport. Thankfully Caley fly’s with Southwest most of the time and her bags fly free! She had to move a few things around in the bags, to make the weight limits, but Ness helped her and it went fine. She made is safe and sound to Atlanta and had to hang out for a bit until Savannah16 picked her up to take her the rest of the way to SCAD.
After Caley left, Jacob still came to visit us one day before he left for Colorado. It was fun to have him here and he fits in so well with our family! I’m pretty confident that he will be around for a long time after all, we already claim him as one of our own! Saved a package of Jacob’s favorite Oreo cookies and sent it with him. Nick and Will put together Nick’s new computer and that took longer than either of them thought it would, but was good father/son time.
I sent her a package on the first week she left. She needed a hot glue gun and her watch she left at home, so I shipped them her way. She has finished her first week back and only 9 more to go. I miss her hugs the most! I will be happy to find a reason to go visit!
It’s a new year and new opportunities are just around the corner. Caley is enjoying her new classes and looking forward to her 3D art class. I can’t wait to see what she creates!!